A divorce is a choice made by people who want to depart their matrimony. Divorce though is a common occurrence that sprouts up due to incompatibility yet what’s uncommon about this is comparing your divorce to other people’s divorce. Comparing one's divorce to another makes for an immature way of handling the situation.A number of Utah divorce attorney suggest that diligence lies in handling things rationally and not comparing your divorce to other people’s divorce is one such maturity. Following are the reasons that signify why one should not compare divorces:
Different Reasons:
Every marriage has a different reason to end. These reasons form the basis of further allegations in legal trials. Comparing your divorce to other peoples divorce not only shows your disbelief in your attorney but also leaves that attorney confused. Attorneys handle all divorces uniquely since all situations vary. For example, one reason for divorce may be cruelty while for another might be negligence from the spouse. The difference is not always limited to reasons behind the divorce rather they may sometimes extend to the expenses incurred on attorneys and services provided by attorneys. Hence a different path and process is followed depending on the reasons for divorce.Different Situation:
There are different situations for every couple, some end up for psychological reasons and some end up for physical reasons. Though both of the reasons have a psychological effect on couples the situations are always different. Keep your focus on your own situation rather than comparing it to others situation as you are just aware of one side of the coin of their marriage. Be self-referential as it is your marriage that’s ending. Comparing your divorce situation may divert your attorney’s focus which could result in unnecessary delay in the process.Different People:
No situation is exactly like another, and everyone has his or her own psychological strength and mindset to handle situations. You cannot compare your ability to handle things with others. Everyone has a tendency to look where they are lacking. So, instead of comparing with others, try to focus on your situation and handle it maturely.Comparison of any kind can enhance problems. The best thing to do in this situation is to simply trust your attorney and believe in what they advise. Comparing always brings negativity to the mind. It is best to focus on your situation as it’s ultimately your marriage that could be heading towards divorce. Each person goes through different circumstances, and even alimony and child support system is different in every case. So, to judge your situation according to others proceedings will only create a hindrance in your proceedings.
About the Author:
David Pedrazas is a premier divorce and family law attorney in Salt Lake City, Utah. He graduated from the University of Utah Law School in 1997, and has been practicing for over 14 years in the areas of divorce, child support, child custody, paternity, alimony, property division, and parent time.
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Salt Lake City, UT 84106
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